Cafe de Desiree

July 16, 2013

Fear Not

Filed under: angst,Blogging,dating,life — desi83 @ 12:22 am

I have been pondering lately on how much fear dominates my life, and I think I need to start pushing myself out of my tedious comfort zone. Why? Because lately I have been bored and finding myself spending time doing what I don’t really want to do out of boredom and out of convenience. It is sad how excited I was just to go to Nashville this past Saturday. I have been stuck in this town for way too long this year. My yearly beach trip did not happen. I have not gone to any summer festivities or concerts in Nashville so far. I drink with my friends and spend an exhorbent amount of time at home reading, watching mindless television, and spending too much time on facebook and online dating. Well, I’ve kind of gotten away from the later lately, but still. I need adventure in my life again. Also, I need to grow some figurative balls. So, here is a list of activities/goals/actions/advice that should do the trick.

1) Go on a road trip for a weekend before the sumer ends. Ask someone to go with me.
2) Stop averting my eyes and avoiding every attractive guy who looks at me. What the hell is wrong with me?

3) Write my damned book! I started it, and I shelved it. And I really liked it!

4) Do not whimp out and cancel (like I always do) the party I am invited to in Nashville in 2 weeks. It is okay to crash there.

5) Save money not just for school, but also for a beach trip. I don’t care if it is just over the weekend, buy a plane ticket and fucking go.

6) Stop wasting time on facebook. It is stupid.

7) Enjoy the moments, and don’t worry so much about the consequences. Not everything is meant to evolve into something everlasting, but if it does, just let it happen as it should. If it doesn’t, don’t have regrets, just enjoy the memory and take what you can out of it.

8) I don’t have to be everyone’s friend. If there is someone who is a poison to my life, I don’t have to be their friend just because everyone else likes them. Be cordial and try to talk to other people instead of that person, but don’t let that person deter me from being with my friends.
9) Don’t keep dating someone out of pity or boredom. If I decide I am not into someone, be honest and remember that it is not all the sudden going to magically improve. However, if I really like someone, I don’t have to wait around for them to call me. Just don’t stalk them or be “the crazy girl”. ha.
10) Go dancing way more often. Dance well, dance badly, just dance.



  1. Desiree,
    I just stumbled upon your little corner of the blogosphere. Letting go of life a little can be an exhilarating ride. You sound like you have a few things on your list to get you out of the “funk,” so good luck to you. Most of all, I hope you find something muse-like that inspires you to pull that book off of your shelf. “It is nothing to die. It is frightful not to live.” -Victor Hugo
    Go dancing!

    Comment by Reagan K Reynolds — July 16, 2013 @ 12:35 am | Reply

    • Thanks, Reagan, and thanks for reading! I am going to save that quote.

      Comment by desi83 — July 17, 2013 @ 3:02 am | Reply

  2. Dance.

    Comment by Michael Harley — July 16, 2013 @ 12:56 pm | Reply

  3. So how did you do with overcoming your fears? Did you accomplish all the items listed you wanted to achieve?

    Comment by Michael — July 15, 2014 @ 9:25 pm | Reply

    • I didn’t accomplish everything, but I did check some of those off the list, and I am in the process of self improvement constantly lol.

      Comment by desi83 — July 16, 2014 @ 4:16 am | Reply

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